Life has, as of recent been throwing many curveballs my way. As a full-time student and mother of two, I have not had much time of reflection. The case most days is that I feel more like pulling out my hair instead of the ever-popular brushing. I think, if I wait long enough it will just fall out on it’s own, which will alleviate both scenarios at once. Ha! I wonder if I would look like Sigourney Weaver… hmm…
She was actually pretty as a bald woman. 😀
Life does often throw us curve balls. Many of these curve balls come flying at us faster than we would have ever imagined. It is in these times of loss, lonely, stress, or even extreme joy that we can find ourselves once again through reflection. Tonight was such a night. It happened like this:
In a conversation with a gentleman I had just met, he shared small tidbits about his life.It was mainly small talk. These little tidbits were of children and parenting; the typical stuff. Though brief in words, it was these words that sparked my thoughts into being. I told him that I am a mother of two and that single parenting is not a job that anyone should ever sign up for. In all reality I cannot, after four years, find the logic in such a choice. Still, I love my children with all of my heart. I also told this gentleman that I do what I do, not for honor, but out of the love that is birthed from me to my children. His response was simply that love, yes love, is why we do what we do for them. And as strange as this interaction was, I believe that God allows us to be in certain situations to possibly help others along.
Below is the rest of my reply to Mr. Gentleman:
“Yes, love is the reason why we hug, why we discipline, why we strive so hard to do what we do. My children are both my joy, and my grief. They are my hug in times of need, my test when I get too haughty, and my reward when I have learned the lesson I am being taught. In all things, they are a parents delight and strength. The children are to be the glue that holds two people together. Often times, this is opposite. Sadly so, we have families falling apart. I think at some point in my career I may begin a family rebuilding center. It is a thought.”
My date with God:
In need of rest and a break from all things, “I take small breaks on Friday mornings for coffee and a brisk walk down a very nice trail in the city. It is wooded in some parts with paved roads, periodic rest stops, and nice little streams that flow under the occasional bridge. The trail is quite long so I only go about four miles before turning around. While enjoying my time alone I pass mothers pushing strollers, and the “fit” guys who appear to have been running their entire lives. In the meantime, I take the opportunity to enjoy the sights and sounds around me. It is a time where the rest of the world melts away. Only God and I remain. The walk is rejuvenating and one that I look forward to every week. I suppose it is my ‘date with God.'”
I know that may sound absurd to some… “a date with God.” But I think if we as a society take the time to reflect on the things that we were created to think on, many of us would be much happier people. (This is solely my opinion.)
🙂 In life we will meet people who will encourage us, test us, and bring us down. We, both as professionals and individuals, must do our part to help them rise from the ashes. We have to help them climb higher instead of allowing the adverse to take place. If we, as God’s children will reach out our hands to others, we will (one by one,) change the world.
But it has to start somewhere…maybe with a brief reflection of the things that brought us joy when we were younger. Maybe it was that first kiss from the one we love, or the first steps of our children.
Maybe it was the first time you looked out your office window wondering if there really was something larger than what we visually see; something that created this whole world but we have yet to explain or understand what that something was. Whatever it was, we once did not allow life to drag us away from the things most important.
No matter, life is short and we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Love the one’s you have in your life. Forgive them when they are wrong. Pray for them through their struggles, knowing that the things you all go through are but for a season. This too shall pass as you rest in the arms of your Creator as you have your date with God.